First
written in December 2013
It's been a year & a half since returning back to the UK from Chapel Hill. I had
always meant to do a ‘farewell’ post, but with the mania of final year of
university, getting a job and spending months catching up on previously put off
blog posts I sort of lost the desire to finish it off. And then Blogger/Google
decided to completely change and deny me access to the blog for quite a while!
As I left Chapel Hill it seemed as if it
was a chapter of my life that was ending and being fully closed behind me. I
didn’t think I would return there, or even remain in close contact with the
guys and girls I had become close. Thankfully, and I guess unsurprisingly, this
didn’t happen at all. Whilst it’s natural that I fell out of contact with some
people, simply due to the nature of human contact and the sheer distances and
time differences between people, the beauty of modern forms of communication
means that in a way I haven’t at the same time. Furthermore, the phenomenon of
airplane travel means I have seen certain people way more than I ever expected!
I guess this is probably a good point to
put down a bit about the ‘returning home’ experience. I was told both before
going out to the USA and before returning home about the reverse culture shock
I was likely to experience. And it be honest, it was bad. What made it worse
was whilst I missed Chapel Hill and the way of life I had lived out there, at
the same time I was thrilled to be home with my family and seeing my home mates
again. But I was also very conscious of having to always be so excited to be
home, when at times I truthfully wasn’t. I felt bored and out of place. Added to
this was also the personal need to not be the ‘year abroad guy’ who only ever
chatted about the time he had spent abroad. Yet for the past year that was all
I had done, and all my stories and experiences etc revolved around that. I
found myself purposely giving non-committal responses to questions about my
time abroad, in a way (as I saw it) to not bore people. I really did find it
hard to adjust back to home life. Also,
the jet lag back was an absolute bitch. Especially as for the first few weeks
of being home I had nothing to do with myself! Starting a summer job helped
return a routine, but it was hard. Top tip for anyone there: when you get back
force yourself back into a routine!
I was lucky going back to Manchester, as I
moved into a house with other Geographers who had gone abroad as well, and so
there was the common ground on which to share stories and experiences. All of
the ‘study abroad-ers’ tended to stick together, some more than others, due to
being placed back a year as a consequence of going abroad and as such not
knowing many (if any) of the year we were joining. Furthermore, quite
bizarrely, we felt a little bit of animosity from the other students; a sort of
‘who the hell are you?’ attitude. Thankfully, this seemed to fade as we assimilated
into the year and got to know some of our course mates.
The housemates. We regularly looked this damn good |
Back with the lads |
Manchester Study Abroad-ers really struggling with being back... |
I feel I maintained a greater connection to
Chapel Hill than many other returners due to my dissertation topic being based
upon my time at UNC (specifically focused on the rivalry with Duke if you are
interested!). This meant I still talked to many people back in Chapel Hill to
get further research and information. The dissertation was also a cheeky excuse
to return back to Chapel Hill for the October reading week. In the name of
extra research of course….
The disso. The pint was a regular appearance throughout! |
Anyways, I have been very lucky in being
able to maintain contact with a fair few people from Chapel Hill since being back
in the UK. Almost immediately after arriving back home I had both Jess and Abe
come to stay for a few days whilst on their European travels. Even more
excitingly, Pat came and visited for a few days as well, and took great delight
in ensuring all the old pubs of London were thoroughly visited! Pat also
visited a year later whilst working on the John Mayer tour, which meant a
cheeky free ticket to the gig!
Working hard. Clearly. |
Casually drinking John Mayer's beer... |
In Manchester I also managed to see Lexi & Emma again for a few days whilst they were in town (Lexi having studied in Manchester the year before I was in CH), which was great fun and despite my work load being rather hectic at the time we still managed a cheeky night out together like old times. Fiona and John still pop into my life on a semi-regular basis, which is always great fun but never as often as I would like.
With the terrible two in Manchester |
With the amazing-ness of modern technology
it is pretty easy to remain in contact with some of the guys who live in
various parts of the world, and a few months ago a number of us who were studying
in CH together managed to get around a table in a busy London restaurant and
have a catch up. It honestly was like nothing had changed (after the obligatory
“what you been up to?”), with the same conversations and banter flying about. It
was quite funny who had ended up in London and really nice to be able to see
everyone again.
Another trip around the UK found Lindsay
&I staying in Glasgow with John, including a visit to Linlithgow to see
Fiona and Wevine (who had casually popped over the pond for a short time!). Linlithgow
is a tiny little town between Glasgow & Edinburgh, with a massive lake,
castle & strong accents – just what one would want from a small Scottish
place! This was a fantastic few days, especially partying in Edinburgh with
everyone. Although Fiona got boy-eyes and I got beer-eyed…
Linlithgow |
Yeah, I was beer-eyed for sure |
Whilst I know it is unlikely that I will
keep in close contact with everyone I met during my time in CH, I would like to
think that I will stay in contact with everyone from CH. More likely I guess is
remaining in contact with a few people regularly that I was close with from
time to time. Which is fine: as long as everyone else still offers me a place
to stay when I next go gallivanting around the world!
Still repping UNC in Manchester with UNC study abroad-ers |